It is not hard to tell who she is. Or where she is. She will grasp at any chance to prove or preach her point. Her point is always the same. She has seen the enemy, and she knows the solution. Nothing can change her mind, and on this issue she is always right. If you disagree with her you are a caveman, insensitive, chauvinist, backward, misogynist, and all the other glowing flattering adjectives used to describe a thinking man these days. Woe unto you if she is even slightly successful at her career; she will take this as irrevocable proof of the fact that the Light of the Lord Himself has landed upon her.
The rise of the feminazi is something I have been watching for a while with mild amusement. They seem to be everywhere these days. I hear people ask what a feminazi is. I became familiar with the term not so long ago, and perhaps it stuck because it seemed so fitting. Feminazi is a term used pejoratively to describe either feminists who are perceived as extreme or radical; women who are perceived to seek superiority over men, rather than equality. There’s a difference between a feminazi and a feminist. Though I also have a problem with the whole feminism idea, it is better than feminazism.
For the sake of simplicity, a feminist is someone who supports women’s’ rights. Simple as that. And that’s cool. Basically, equality for the sexes. The feminazi, on the other hand, believes that men are the enemy, and they must be defeated at all cost. She is a fringe extremist who unfortunately receives a lot of undeserved attention, and thus becomes the horrific, screeching spokesperson for an actually intelligent social cause. She turns people off from the noble cause of feminism, because people start to think that all feminists are like her. She believes that men are the cause of all women’s problems, and the only way to solve this it to be ‘better’ than men at what they do or at who they are (because: ‘whatever a man can do, a woman can do… shallap’). She will lecture you on issues such as ‘slut shaming’, which believe it or not, is actually a thing. Personally I believe that if you are a slut that’s your business, and if you are not ashamed of it more power to you. But if other people tend to have a low opinion of sluts and go ahead to express it, hey, it’s a free world. She believes that women should be able to drink as much and sleep around as much as men. She doesn’t know that being a man is not about sleeping around or how much liquor you can hold. Tsk tsk.
She is normally quite bitter, though she will try to hide it – striving to prove to the world what a strong independent woman she is. (Oh Destiny’s Child, if thou knewest what grief your song would bring upon humanity, thou would have left it be). She will be ready to fight for whatever reason, not physically of course. Okay sometimes physically. She will grasp at non-issues to make a point out of – have you seen people on social media who get angry at anything and everything? A little joke or issue becomes about humanity, respect, sexism, tribalism, rape culture, etc. etc. Oh Lordy. Do you remember the Mollis audio clip issue? Firstly, shout out to the men who came out screaming that it must have been rape simply because they wanted to gain marks in the eyes of females. The feminazis had a field day on that one. Saddeningly I also saw lawyers, both male and female, shouting about how it must have been rape. Yet even a two bit lawyer will tell you in the words of Arthur Conan Doyle, theorizing before the facts is a capital offence.
I didn’t plan to write on the issue of rape and dressing and what not but I might as well get it out of the way. There is no need to say obvious things, but I will say them anyway. Women have a right to dress however they want. Period. Stripping women or brutalizing them is unacceptable and criminal. Period. Men also get raped, and you never hear that it was because of what they were wearing. Okay. On the other hand, as a woman, getting drunk and blacking out amongst strangers is not a good idea. Logic is your friend. Use it. Dressing skimpily and walking in some parts of Nairobi is not a good idea. Listen, let’s be realists. There are rights, and there are odds. Even as men there are some places in this country we will not walk in as the chances of getting mugged are almost 99%. We have the right to walk there but the odds are that it won’t end well. You have the right to travel to Northern Iraq, but the odds are you’ll either end up being a slave for ISIS, or you will end up with an American missile embedded in your diab. You should be able to go to Iraq; in a perfect world you would be able to go to Iraq. But the world ain’t perfect babe, and the same applies here. And not all men are created equal, not all believe in the rights of women, not all are even familiar with them. It reminds me of the story of a bunch of tourists in a game park somewhere in Kenya who were being chased by lions and they decided to climb a tree to escape them. The lions also climbed the tree and dragged off all the tourists but one. When the survivor told the park ranger that he had read a book which said that lions don’t climb trees, the ranger simply told him “The lions didn’t read that book.” You get the point.
Like millions of other people I simply adore Obama. Though I feel he was misadvised when he read us the riot act on gender equality. Of course he was absolutely on the money when he said that not allowing half the team to play is stupid. Truth of the matter is, the progress made by women and women’s rights in Kenya so far is impressive. At last check, there were more girls than boys in schools in Kenya at all levels. (Except JKUAT. Nothing really applies to JKUAT – also known as Juja Boys High School). From my personal experience, I see more women than men my age in employment, and ever since I became of working age every single organisation I have worked for except one, has had more women than men working in it. And the one that didn’t, didn’t for good reasons. It is obvious there is still progress to be made, but let us also appreciate our achievements. And let’s not rush to adopt foreign systems of living, of democracy, or what not. Like other older societies, ours will grow and develop in its own unique way. In other news if the Rwandese want Paul Kagame to go for another term, who are you to say no?
The issue of having a third of the seats in the national assembly reserved for women, if you ask me, is rather silly, and totally unsustainable. Perhaps the future might prove me wrong. I can understand it being included in our constitution due to the rush to pass that document. Look at our so called women reps in Parliament. What have they done for women so far? Unfortunately when one thinks of women reps the pitiful yet hilarious image of Rachel Shebesh comes to mind, and all she seems to have achieved so far is a Gubernatorial slap, followed by a Senatorial roll in the hay, punctuated by a Senatorial slap. Three cheers for women.
Logic would tell us that we should also focus on the boy child, and perhaps focus more. It is men who are more likely to engage in drugs and crime. It is men who are more likely to influence other men and women to engage in drugs and crime. It is men who are more likely to kill themselves. It is men, more than women, who need to be raised to believe that rape is unacceptable and violence is not a solution. But look at our double standards. When you hear about a woman, most likely a spouse, meting out violence on a man, you will always hear people, women mostly, saying that somehow the victim must have deserved it. Yes that he deserved to have his dick cut off. When a man brutalizes a woman, the outcry can be heard from here to the Congo. Double standards much? Anyway, you get the point.
Now sadly, due to the feminazi and misplaced feminism, and also misdirected goodwill, we are breeding men who feel angry, ignored and emasculated, men who don’t see the reason in being men anymore. Men who believe that being a man is all about having more (money) than the next guy, so that they can get whatever they want from whomever, as society has taught them that that is all that matters. We have raised and are raising a generation of women who always spout phrases like ‘I deserve better’ or ‘I’m entitled to’… Women who forget what life really is about and instead are engaged in endless competition, women who believe that men are their eternal enemies, women who want to be like men yet they can’t, and who don’t know how to be women.
Whoever put us on this planet put us here together, men and women, for a reason. We’ve gotta work it out. We are not each other’s enemies.
In the words of the poet: where is the love?